Sorry I'm late...this move has killed me 🙃

Hey {first_name}!

I feel like a kid constantly apologising for being late, and as funny as that image is, I promise this won’t become a habit. Life’s just been a lot (and still is a lot).

Big news though: I’ve finally moved! 🎉

I haven’t stopped moving since Monday, and I literally only got a sofa today. My quads are filing for a restraining order.

Between the move, Jasper’s ups and downs, a neighbour’s dog barking half the night, water issues at the house… every small stress has piled into one big “I might snap if I hear one more thing” moment. Honestly, I feel like I’m living my own version of trigger stacking right now.

I’m genuinely thinking me and Jasper might do a detox together — reset our routines, clear the chaos. I might even record the changes as a little case study… and if there’s interest, maybe we do a group detox challenge. 👀

Oh, and I still haven’t reunited with my hippogriff yet. I haven’t had time to fly around in Hogwarts Legacy and honestly… I think he’s forgotten what I look like.

Over the last five weeks, we’ve dug into what neutrality really is:

• Why it has to come before socialisation

• How it builds resilience and recovery

• Where and how to start without overwhelming your dog

• And the small, repeatable actions that make it stick

And why it's so important for our progress...

• It reduces emotional fallout. Triggers don’t ruin the day — your dog bounces back instead of spiralling.

• It creates space for training to stick. Your dog can actually hear you and learn, instead of reacting first.

• It protects your progress. Without neutrality, every exciting walk or trigger-heavy day chips away at confidence.

But here’s the piece we haven’t talked about yet: your role in all of this.

It’s easy to focus on what the dog should do — but neutrality is co-created.

Your dog’s ability to regulate doesn’t exist in a bubble. It’s tied directly to your emotions and actions.

• Control your emotions.

Even if you’re silently panicking inside, your dog needs to feel your calm on the outside.

Project confidence — “I’ve got this.”

When your dog senses that aura of safety, they don’t feel like they have to take control.

• Breathe and soften.

Drop your shoulders. Unclench your hands (don't drop th leash though). Slow your pace.

A soft body and steady breath say more than words ever will.

• Observe, don’t obsess.

Watch your dog’s body language and environment without micromanaging.

Neutrality is built in calm observation, not constant correction.

• Do the work.

Having the knowledge is great — but progress only comes from getting out there.

A lot of owners stay inside because [neutrality] training is hard, or scary, or slow. But avoiding the work builds a shaky foundation.

It’s better to get out, make the mistakes, and learn what your dog needs. Every small error becomes a stepping stone to real confidence.

Neutrality is built together.

• Pick one quiet, low-pressure environment — somewhere with minimal triggers.

• Spend 10–15 minutes just being there — walk slowly, let your dog sniff, keep your body soft.

• Project confidence, even if you’re faking it at first.

• Make it positive — add a short play break or a decompression sniff session.

• Note your baseline — how calm they were, how long recovery took, any small wins.

This is where real neutrality starts: not in the perfect session, but in the quiet, imperfect ones where you both practice calm.

Neutrality Series Complete!

We’ve officially wrapped up our first deep-dive newsletter series. Thank you for sticking with me through it — I hope it’s left you with tools you can actually use in your day-to-day.

What’s Next?

I’ve been thinking about diving into a new series on boundaries, anticipation, and expectations — basically, how to help your dog settle into the life you want together without all the constant tension.

But I’d love to hear from you:

What do you want to learn about next?

Hit reply and let me know — your ideas often turn into my best newsletters.

Group detox anyone?

As mentioned. I’m planning to do a detox with Jasper soon — a proper reset for both of us — and I want to track and record our progress as a little case study.

If anyone’s interested, we could turn it into a group detox challenge so we all reset together. Maybe make a little community on here to track our days?

Hit reply and let me know if you’d join.

[I also haven't had a chance to do any of this yet. I'll try getting all of this out (maybe not the archive) this week though so keep an eye out for an early email!]

🖋 FEEDBACK!

This is a heads up that at some point next week I'm goin to send out a questionnaire/feedback form. It's going to have a few questions just on how I can improve everything. I'd love to know what you honestly think and whether there are things you'd want to see included.

I'd really appreciate it if you could take the time to help me out (yes I know I haven't posted as many dog pics as promised and I'm sorry I will make it up to you!)

📚 Mini Neutrality Deep Dive Incoming

Once this newsletter series wraps up, (which will be next week) I’ll be turning it into a newsletter-exclusive PDF. No one else will get it — just you. I want it to be something you can reference and flick through whenever you need a reminder or bit of clarity. Obviously give me time to get there!

📂 A Newsletter Archive Is Coming

Ok so I recently found that some of you aren't able to see the images I've added to these newsletters and if that's the case I'm sorry because they must be so text heavy!

I did bring it up to tech support but they said it'll take time to sort.

So I'm also at some point [lol] going to archive these newsletters so you can go back to previous posts especially if missed a few (this won't necessarily include resources but I'll how I feel.

New Blog Post (ohhhh we're cooking again)

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Updated Blog Posts

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Virtual Coaching Availability

Keep an eye out for any availability that pops up.Obviously this is going to be very limited right now with the move and everything going on Jasper wise right now.

If you can't find a slot then drop me a message, if I have time I'm happy to slot you in!

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Anyway {first_name}, I have to get back to meal prepping. I was meant to take 30 minutes writing this but it escaped from me slightly.

I’m hoping I get a chance to chill out this weekend, but honestly, my to-do list is feral and I've got spider patrol tomorrow as well 😭

If I don’t get a break sometime this week, my next chance is basically Halloween…so pray for me, please.

I hope everything’s good on your end — that you’re having a calm weekend and catching a bit of sun with your dog.

I should be back to normal for you next week!

Take care {first_name}!